The initial contact of women through online dating can be tricky. When you go to send that first note, you are thinking about the fact that your first impression is your last, so you want to say the right thing. If you can get this down you better believe you will have success. Three of the best tools for this are you being positive, truthful, and fun.

You are going to have to go through a few emails and make a few mistakes before you get it right, but it will be well worth your time to learn. If you don’t get a response from each and every email that you send don’t take offense. The more experience you get with writing initial emails everything will fall into place.

Before you even think about contacting someone that you like, it is so important that you read their profile. This will help you relate to them in your email. It easy for anyone to send a vague or generic email. You may see things such as, “Your eyes and smile are beautiful.” Women are typically much more meticulous than this. Take some time and compare the difference between a man and a woman’s profile. Chances are hers are more detailed than his.

In your first correspondence you should mention some of the things that you noticed she had interest in. Remember you are not the only guy that contacted her today. There are hundreds of other emails with the same goal as you and that is to find love and or companionship. You will have to do something that sets you apart from the other singles.  The fact that you took the time to write more than one line is a very good start. 

Mentioning something like the fact that you are intrigued about the charity that she is involved in will definitely peak her interest. You should mention any little detail that you think she would be happy to know you read. The way to a women’s heart is to be genuine. 

If you have a good sense of humor, use it to your advantage. Come up with something clever and funny to say. Be careful with you choice of jokes.  It may be a bit of a turn off if you barely know this person and you are mocking them.  

Don’t harass people. If for some reason you don’t get a response just assume that she is not interested. Move on to the next single person. I personally want to date someone who wants to date me. How about you? I have been in the position of hanging out with someone because I felt sorry for them. Not a good move. Time is precious. Spend your time emailing and correlating with someone who seems to be really interested in you.  If you have to convince them that you are a great person or good for them, than it is not at all worth the trouble. It would be bad if you were flagged and lost your membership because someone flagged you as a stalker. There is no guarantee that every email that you send will get a response or even read. Take it for what it is and move on.

If you can master the emailing when you approach a woman you will get a good response rate from other online dating singles.             Good Luck and Happy Emailing.