So you have been dating this woman online for about 2 months and things have started to get better. The two of you have decided that you are potentially a really good match decide to meet one another face to face finally. If you want the transition to go smoothly, because there will be differences, you should make sure that your choice of environment is as comfortable as possible. I have listed some pointers to consider before going on your first date.

It is so easy to let our nerves take us to another place when we first meet someone. I cannot tell you to leave your butterflies and nervousness at home, but try to relax and have a good time. It is so important that you are yourself when you meet them. We tend to lose our train of thought and forget how to talk when we are nervous too. When I meet people, I go in with the mind set of just being. I want them to see what are going to get today and 3 months from now.

Whatever your norm is for attire aside from wearing sportswear, should be worn on your date. Chances are you not going to fancy place. Wear what you feel most comfortable and most confident in. It’s not a bad idea to discuss your attire with your date. I usually let people know if I am going to be casual, so neither one of us feel over or under dressed. The focus here should be on each other and not what you are wearing.

When she wants to meet face to face you should let her pick the location. Although you should make sure it is a place that you are comfortable with, it is important that she be comfortable and feel safe. Already have some recommendations in mind just in case she asked if you had any place in mind. You might also want to give her a few no-go places if you don’t enjoy a particular type of food, but you should try to be flexible. It is best if your first date is set up to be short. Meeting for coffee, lunch, or dessert would be ideal.

Try not to put the underlying pressure of whether or not she is the one on your date. You should go into this first date as friends. Remember you are here to have a good time. She will be able to sense if you are under some pressure or you are putting her under a scope. 

Now that you have gotten through the meeting and greeting, relax and have fun with this. You should no pressures or feel like you have to be something you’re not. If you feel like you cannot be yourself, you should assess whether or not this person is for you. Keep the conversing light and smile a lot.

Hopefully the date went well. If you had a great time, take the time to send her a short note saying that you had an awesome time and that you are looking forward to seeing her again. It is a nice way to let her know that you are interested and it is the best way to move things along if you feel as though she has a lot of potential to be your perfect match. 

It is very important that you are patient with her. She has every right to take her time to get to know you and decide if you are her match. In the meantime have a blast getting to know her and letting her get to know you.