·        Of course you want to stay close to your partner when you go to a party that you are new to. Don’t hold on to on another so much that other swingers think there is no where for them to fit. Chances are you will not be approached.

·        As time goes on at the party there may be general “disrobing”. You don’t have to do anything that you do not feel comfortable with. You will be accepted if you chose to keep your clothes on. It is best if you try to participate in as much as you can. If you change into something more revealing will help others include you and make you feel more involved.

·        Be truthful with the other swinger about what you are feeling. If you are not comfortable with something that is happening and you don’t discuss it with your partner it may be obvious to the others that something is not right. This could make the rest of the experience awkward

·        As much as you may want to ask a billion questions about it, don’t. Chances are the other participants will want to “show you the ropes.”

·        If you see a group of people in a spa or in a pool together try to join in. This will give you a better chance of meeting people more comfortably. Instead of you have to initiate conversation, they may already be in a good discussion. They will probably automatically include you or you could just chime in.

·        Try as hard as you can to leave your inhibitions at home, both sexual and social. If you have hang ups with anything it will definitely get in the way of your swinging pleasure. You cannot look for much out of a swinger’s party if you’re not prepared to put much in.

Ÿ         Don’t act like someone else, be yourself and good natured. A warm smile has a positive effect on every body.

Ÿ         Make sure you walk in with your partner

      Always come in as a couple, and leave, it wont be viewed in a good way if one partner leaves early and the other stays, the majority of time, if one goes, both go.

Ÿ         Get there on time
Its not cool to show up late to parties, as the night will have already been in progress, and you may make the other party members who have already  been there feel uncomfortable by walking in late,. It will also make it a little harder for you to fit in. If you are going to be tardy because of traffic or other appointments, just call and give them a heads up.

Ÿ         Be nice
The swinging way of life has a lot of people that are full of insecurities and uncertainties. Being polite can help make them and you feel more comfy. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. Delicately, considerately, thoughtfully.

Ÿ       Be friendly
Be friendly with everyone that you meet at the party. You may know in the first five minutes that it won’t go any further, but you should still be polite.