There are so many questions in some of our minds about alternative sexual practices.  Below is a list of terms you may encounter as you explore your fantasies and learn more about alternative forms of sexual play. The purpose is to simply educate you so that if you decide to “go there” you will know what terms to use and understand your partner. 

 

When we say alternative sex it could mean anything you want it to.  However, for our purposes, we'll define alternative sex as anything other than traditional opposite sex intercourse. 

 

·         Androgyny: Having a combination of both woman and man characteristics (culturally sanctioned sex roles).

·         Fellatio: Oral sex performed on a man. 

·         Autoerotic Asphyxiation: being turn on by lack of oxegen

·         Binding:  gathering the feet or genitals with string, rope or lace.

·         Body Worship: to adore one’s body. Sex game in which one partner willingly chooses to adore another's body.

·         Analingus: Using the tongue to penetrate the anus.

·         Bondage: Physical or mental restriction of a partner.

·         Bottom: being in the submissive role

·         Caning: sexual striking with a cane

·         Cock Rings: used to keep an erection

·         Corsetting: oxygen restriction with a corset.  

·         Cunnilingus: Oral sex performed on a woman. .

·         Dominance/Submission: Power exchange between partners.

·         Dominatrix/Domme/Dom: sadist

·         Erotica: Sexual literature and photos.

·         Chastity Belts: Leather or metal belts used to prevent genital penetration

·         Fantasy Play: making fantasies come true.

·         Fisting: putting a fist or hand into the vagina or anus.

·         Flagellation: hitting a person with an item.

·         Frottage: rubbing of the bodies

·         GLBT: Generic descriptive term for the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community.

·         Handkerchief Codes: sexual preference decoded by color

·         Homoeroticism: the arousal amongst lesbians or gay men

·         Masochism: The desire for and ability to process intense/painful sensation for enjoyment and sexual arousal. Sometimes it is indulged in for the endorphins alone, without arriving at any sexual act. Generally an activity for two people.  

·         Menage á Trois: Three sexual partners at having sex together

·         Online Sex: Verbal sex between partners via email, chat room or other Internet device.

·         Aphrodisiacs: vitals, beverages, drugs, aromatic plants, or scents can turn one on

·         Orgy: Group sex.

·         Paraphilia: Unacceptable object sex.