As simple and pitiable as men can be in the bedroom, one important thing to remember is that they have needs. Men may telegraph that they want sex, or feel like they need it, but you can make the difference between mediocre and mind-blowing nooky by figuring out how to key into his desires. Even though you may think you have your man's carnal code cracked, you have to realize there isn't just one way to unlock his passion. Most prominent sex experts will tell you that a lot can change his lusty leanings: his hormones, stress levels, and even the time of day. Who knew men were so tough? We want to give you some helpful hints on when, and how, to wow your guy in the sack. Check out our sexy hints on how to read your man and reap all the benefits of revving him up the right way.
Unlock the beast
Men can be creatures of conquest. I mean, after your man whups his pals on the basketball court or nails an important deal at work, he's likely to crave an uninhibited quickie against a wall or a lusty shag anywhere there's a smooth surface. Why the cromagnon treatment? Simple, his alpha instincts have been unleashed.
When men have success, even the small triumph of just watching their team win a big game, their testosterone levels tend to go up. He’s revved up and ready to go, so let him know you’re ready for him to throw you (gently) down on the bed for a serious pleasure session.
Most men are ready for some randy roughhousing before breakfast, since levels of testosterone tend to be higher in the very early morning. A man’s sex drive often builds to its highest point from dawn until around 10am. "He's likely to wake up already turned on and feeling assertive.
Here’s how to rock his world. When he's coming off a big win or gloating about a mini success, tease him a little by slowly stripping off your clothes across the room -- stay just out of his reach and get that alpha instinct peaked. Just looking at your naked body can further raise a man's testosterone, feeding his desire. But it’s tie to really drive him crazy. Let him watch you touch your own erogenous zones, which will not only turn you on, but show him that he turns you on.
Don’t torture him for more than a few minutes, then let him have the championship prize: you. Initiate a primal move that fuels his frisky craving. Standing sex is a great challenge. Have him hold you up against a wall with your legs wrapped around his lower back to give him an animalistic challenge. This allows your man to be the aggressor, since he's holding you up with his arms and lower body. He also gets the visual thrill of watching your breasts bounce during the act.
Kick it up a notch, revel aloud about how hot he's getting you, tell him exactly what he’s doing to make you feel good and tell him to keep doing it. Verbally boosting his ego not only builds his confidence, but can help build orgasmic intensity for you both.
I never knew he wanted to be more romantic
Women aren’t the only ones who like long intimate sessions. In fact, one of the biggest complaints among men is that women don't touch them enough during sex. This is a great way to maintain emotional closeness in a relationship. The trick is nailing down exactly when your guy longs for some slow-burning romantic sex.
Surprisingly, men crave this type of intimacy after experiencing something new or unusual. Having new experiences with your man releases dopamine, which triggers lust and desire. Whether it's diving into your hotel bed or snuggling under the stars on a camping trip, be on the look out for some serious romance.
Another lust trigger for slow, body-meshing sex is in the aftermath of something scary. The novelty of a dangerous situation you'd see in a horror movie or after trying a slightly risky, adrenaline-fueled activity together can also feed dopamine levels and make him want to feel emotionally closer to you, sexually.
How to rock his world: Next time you try anything new take him home and introduce a sensual new move that gives you a closer mental and physical connection, like the Kama Sutra position Yab-Yum. Here's how: Sitting in his lap face-to-face with your legs wrapped around each other's back, you and your guy can gaze into each other's eyes as your hands roam freely. This is perfect in this situation, because your private parts press sensually against each other, furthering intimacy.
The benefit for you is that this position provides more direct stimulation of the clitoris, so you’re more likely to orgasm than in the missionary position."
No Effort Sexual Healing
There are very high expectations for male sexual performance in modern culture. This may heighten his stress level when he wants sex. Sometimes that‘s not good. Since men are so programmed to work for sex, he'll feel relieved of performance pressure when you offer hims some low-maintenance sex, If a guy can feel his woman working sexually to take care of him, it can improve his overall state of mind as well as the pleasure his body is capable of experiencing.
If your man's been placating annoying relatives, wigging about finances or dealing with a demanding boss, stress is likely to make him crave low-maintenance sex. Give him some steamy sex where all he has to do is unzip his fly, if that.
He experts will tell you that anxiety's onset drives up levels of dopamine and, thus, testosterone, which combined with workday exhaustion is likely to leave a man craving sexual release without much effort.
How to rock his world: When you sense your man is stressed, help him unwind by telling him he doesn't even have to get off the sofa. Take control, strip off his shirt and slowly kiss him from his neck down to his waistline, followed by some below-the-belt action.
To make his head spin as you're pleasuring him, try this trick: Break away every now and then work your tongue along the crease between his pelvis and inner thigh. That is like open a treasure chest of sensations.
Next, slide onto his lap in reverse cowgirl position with your hands balanced on his thighs for support. Much like doggie-style, he'll be able to revel in watching your tush and touching your breasts -- but without expending any lower-body energy.
This pose also gives him supereasy access, since whrn you move forward and back, his member will directly stimulate your clitoris with minimal effort on his part. Remember to squeeze your PC muscles as you thrust because it can help you both have bigger, better orgasms more quickly.
