First things first

While every body is different, a few basic things remain the same. Here are some tried and true tips for before, during and after performing cunnilingus:

·         Take a shower together so that nobody is greeted with an unwanted odor or taste possible unpleasant tastes or odors.

·         Don‘t be afraid to ask what your partner likes. 

·         Make sure that your mouth has a lot of its own lubricant. Never touch or lick the clitoris with a dry finger or tongue.

·         Be fully aware of where the clit is, but don’t go there first. Start with gentle kissing and licking around the upper thighs and vulva.

·         Verbally express how beautiful she looks and tastes. 

·         Change it up. The last thing you want to do is bore her. 

·         As she becomes more aroused, insert a finger or two into her vagina.

·         Find out is she likes anal play.

·         Continue to fondle and hold her as she orgasms and after.

·         Be gentle with the clitoris.

·         Unlike men, many women enjoy strong stimulation while having an orgasm. Keep it going until she asks you to stop.

Set the Atmosphere

Set the scene with candles, fresh flowers, incense, soft music... whatever she prefers. Your thoughtfulness will surprise and delight her. It is very important that she is completely relaxed and comfortable. Tell her to recline on the bed. Place a few pillows behind her head. Be sure that the temperature is perfect. 

Foreplay is always good. Don’t go right for the treasure. Take the time to kiss her lips and rub her back. Stroke her lightly with your fingertips. Look her in the eyes and tell her that she is so beautiful to you. Travel down between her legs and gently kiss, blow, stroke and nibble her belly, inner thighs and hips.

As soon as she starts to breathe heavily, gently spread her legs and kiss it. Play around for a few minutes, spending time with the different parts of her vulva. Be aware if she moans or breaths more intense. This means that you are doing something right. Go back to that same action a few times.

When she sounds highly aroused -- she may be wiggling around a bit, as well -- spread her labia and gently kiss and tongue her clitoris. Don't hold the clitoral hood back unless she instructs you too -- the clitoris is highly sensitive.

Women like to be caressed. Put your arms around her hips and pull her close to you. Lift her buttocks off of the bed and lick her clitoris. Apply firm pressure with the tip of your tongue in a circular motion. Spell words with your tongue motion. Be creative.

When you hear rapid heavy breathing and feel her body start to tense up, she's really enjoying the stimulation you're giving her. If you can tell this where she is, do not stop. Chances are she is on her way to an orgasm. 

Be comfortable with requesting (and receiving) cunnilingus

While studies show that the majority of men (and lesbian women) enjoy performing cunnilingus; some may still need a little coaxing from you. If you scratch their back good, chances are they are going to want to return the favor.  Suggest a "69" position. Let this be something that is often done in your sex regiment.  Thank your partner by reciprocating or indulging them in one of their fantasies.