Clichés, like cowboys or candy stripers during sexual fantasies, can be hard to get into character if one does not buy into the fantasy.  Playing towards one owns desires, make the experience more enjoyable. Picking a sexual fantasy role that clicks with you is key to good sex fantasy role play. Before you do anything do your research. Here are some places to get ideas for sexual fantasy roles:

Notice how comic book characters always wear tights.  From superman to the big bad wolf, from Porky Pig to one or more of the three blind mice, the stories that stay with us from our childhood usually have deep resonance that we can play with as adults.

Think back to old movies you loved, or rent some you’ve never seen.

You may not feel like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman, but you may very well identify with Richard Greer in a way. 

Doesn’t matter who you choose

 If you may like Mr. Belvedere be Mr. Belvedere. He had a nice accent and you could make that Butlers outfit look however you want it to.

Psychological archetypes can take you deeper into fantasy sex role play.

They aren’t specific people, but taking on the role of the bully, the angel, a god, or a servant can leave room for plenty of imaginative filling in the blanks.

Famous singer, academy award winning actor, hero

Everybody imagines having sex with someone famous.  Keeping those fantasies for private solo sex is great. If you really have someone in mind, have your partner play them for their role in your fantasy sex playing. You also don’t have to rely solely on the rich and famous. A Good Samaritan or the guy who fixed your cable last week; anyone you aren’t becomes a potential role for you.

Other Things that you could use for Choosing a Sexual Role

·         It’s a flight of the imagination, so you can push some boundaries. Don’t always pick the same characters. They should not resemble you too much. As much as you can, be experimental, outlandish, take some risks.

·         You don’t always have to be a person. Consider being a cat or a snake. This will turn the sex play into being animalistic. 

·         Remember, it’s a fantasy. As hard as it may seem don’t get embarrassed. If your partner laughs, laugh along.