Have you ever given much thought to the differences between the sexual fantasies typically conjured up by men and women? Women are more emotional which leaves men to the wild imagination and masturbation. We all know that men are visual beasts. Very often when they see a woman they create graphic images of women's sexual bodies and imagine watching them, seducing them or, quite often, being seduced by them.
Women tend to involve more olfactory and auditory memories... memories of smells and sounds. No matter the case there are still a lot of women that use their fantasies to masturbate.
Sexual fantasies can serve many purposes. They can induce sexual desire, maintain sexual arousal, enhance the sexual experience, trigger an orgasm, and preserve a memory.
It is not easy to turn off the switch when it comes to sexual desire. Everybody is made different, but once they get to a certain age it is easier for their sexual desire to decrease and visit less. On those occasions when time is limited, fantasies can serve to focus attention on the anticipated erotic event and help induce the desire for sexual intimacy.
Basically, if you are having a problem getting excited before sex, fantasies are one of the ways to get your desire going. Imagine the sexual encounter is your very first, but without those initial anxieties, and let it be, in your mind, a new and exciting adventure. Some people use a person that they wish they had sexual activities with, while others may go back to an experience they had that stood out to them more than others. Conjure up the memory of a partner's warmth, softness, and gentle touch. See your partner's face in your mind's eye and recall that person's sounds of pleasure and the aroma of their excitement.
How many times have you laid down to have a sexual experience with your lover and your mind wandered off to something that you were more worried about? Erotic fantasy can maintain arousal by pushing away the intrusive nonsexual thoughts. Distractions are exactly that, a distraction. If you allow other things to come into your mind while you are trying to enjoy your sexual experience, it will be very difficult to be pleasured. Concentrating on a fantasy will take us to next level of pleasure if we can focus on it instead.
Fantasies can be of our current sexual partner, but often they will revolve around persons from the past, coworkers, movie stars, or attractive strangers. Do not feel like it is not normal to think of someone other than your partner. Obviously, if someone feels guilty about including others in his or her fantasy script, they should be left out. Some people like a cast of thousands, while others want to focus exclusively on their current partner.
Conservative people may look at fantasies like they are wrong or too kinky. Unusual fantasies can help maintain arousal and are harmless if there is no compulsion to actually experience an act that would be emotionally or physically harmful to oneself or to others. It is not advised to tell your partner that you were thinking of someone else while making love to them because they could be hurt by the idea of it even though they may do it themselves. Fantasies are a wonderful way to intensify your sex life. Use your mind to take you a better sex life.
